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RELATE workshops provide tools and insight to help you do the rest of your life better by building better relationships. Explore the RELATE events and classes at Willow South Barrington or at your preferred Willow location below.

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RELATE | Boundaries + Bridges: When something must change

A three-week workshop with Scott Vaudrey and Deb Shurtz

7–9 p.m. | Tuesdays, July 17, 24, and 31 | Activity Center

When an important relationship hits a snag, what do you do? You know something must change—but should you set a boundary, build a bridge, or maybe a little of both?

this RELATE workshop, you'll learn how to find the ideal balance between accepting the other person and protecting yourself. Using Vaudrey's Something Must Change Pathway, you'll walk away with greater insight into the disappointment you're experiencing in the relationship—and with tools to help you rightsize the gap between where things stand today and what you hope for the future.

  • Gain insight that helps you diagnose the relationship accurately.
  • Use the Accept/Protect Spectrum to help you identify where the relationship is off balance—and take steps toward achieving that ideal balance of accepting and protecting.
  • Learn the three key stages of setting a boundary and the three key stages of building a bridge.

In this popular workshop, you'll hear tons of real-life examples and walk away with practical tools to help you improve troubled relationships—and maximize your level of satisfaction in every relationship that matters.



Who should attend RELATE: Boundaries + Bridges? 

Anyone who deals with people! This workshop is especially helpful for:

  • Those struggling with a difficult relationship.
  • Anyone who has tried to set boundaries—but the boundaries didn't work.
  • People curious about the mechanics of how—and more importantly, when—to set a boundary
  • Moms or dads looking for fresh ideas on how to set boundaries and build bridges toward their teen and adult children.

What's the format?

Each session is a mixture of three components:

  • High-challenge teaching from Scott and Deb
  • Brief self-reflection exercises to help you connect each concept with your own experience
  • Practical table discussions let by trained RELATE facilitators

Can I attend with a friend, my spouse, or my small group? 

Yes! Invite each person to register online, then plan to arrive together at 6:30 p.m. on the first night. Once everyone in your group arrives, a host will seat you together. (If someone in your group wants to become a RELATE facilitator and lead your table discussion, they can EMAIL DEB to learn more.)

Can I attend by myself? 

Absolutely! Plenty of people choose to attend by themselves. A host will seat you at a table where you'll get to know one of our trained facilitators and a few new friends, during these three sessions together.


7–9 p.m. | Tuesdays, July 17, 24 and 31


Activity Center (gym) located near Entrance F, across from Harvest Food Court at Willow Creek South Barrington

What's the cost? 

$15 per person, which covers all three nights


The RELATE Series

RELATE—Boundaries + Bridges: A Working Model for Improving Your Relationships is the third workshop in the 2018 RELATE series. Although these workshops are interconnected, each is taught as a stand-alone experience. If Boundaries + Bridges is your first RELATE workshop, welcome aboard! You'll fit right in—and we hope it will be your first of many RELATE workshops to come!

Upcoming workshops:

  • RELATE—Difficult Conversations | 8:30 a.m.–4 p.m., Saturday, September 15
  • RELATEForgiveness | 8:30 a.m.–4 p.m., Saturday, November 10 
  • RELATERight-sizing the Gap | January 2019 
  • RELATEOrigins: Your Past is Present  | TBD 2019 
  • RELATE—Willpower | TBD 2019

To receive an email alert when registration opens for the next RELATE workshop, SUBSCRIBE HERE.



"When I feel disappointed or hurt by someone, I now know how I can respond in helpful ways."

"Gaining insight into how my past still affects my relationships gives me freedom to live differently going forward."

"I finally understand why certain things trigger me—and now I can do something about it!"

"My son and I finally had the conversation we've been needing to have for years."


Past RELATE events

Through RELATE workshops hosted at Willow South Barrington, you can engage in practical, high-challenge teaching with Pastoral Response Director Scott Vaudrey.  

  • Build better relationships with those you love
  • Keep difficult people from tanking your day
  • Navigate conflict with kindness and confidence
  • See God's hand in every part of your story—past, present, and future

Watch the three-week RELATE Midweek series here.