New Believers Resources

Starting point 

What’s the first thing someone considers when they meet us for the first time?

The person might be a new neighbor, a family connection, or a coworker. According to author Sally Lloyd-Jones, many of them will wonder, “Who are you?”

We can answer with our name, and details of our family. We might also include some details of our background, responsibilities, or interests. Have you noticed that our circumstances and connections often define how we think of ourselves?

And yet, when we became a follower of Christ, did many of these things change? From the time we first believed in Jesus and received Him as our Rescuer and Lord, did we begin to introduce ourselves any differently? Probably not.

What did change?

God’s gift to us includes a new identity. That’s what’s changed. Here, today, we are children in His family and citizens in His kingdom. That is who we are! And that is the reason we have a new story.

So, how would you like to begin your own exploration of the question, “What’s changed?

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “What’s changed?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Sources

Lloyd-Jones, S. (2012). Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing. Grand Rapids: Zonderkidz.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “What’s changed?”

Yet to all who did receive him (Jesus), to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God. 

John 1:12–13 (NIV)

Here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

But whoever did want him, who believed he was who he claimed and would do what he said,

He made to be their true selves, their child-of-God selves. These are the God-begotten, not blood-begotten, not flesh-begotten, not sex-begotten.

John 1:12–13 (MSG)

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Galatians 2:20 (NIV)

Here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Indeed, I have been crucified with Christ. My ego is no longer central. It is no longer important that I appear righteous before you or have your good opinion, and I am no longer driven to impress God. Christ lives in me. The life you see me living is not “mine,” but it is lived by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Galatians 2:20 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages 

• What stood out to you most in the passages?
• How would you explain to a friend the events of being rescued by Jesus?
• What is God helping you understand about your new identity?
• What has surprised you most about the change that has taken place inside of you?
• What have you learned about your relationship with Jesus?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “What’s changed?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on John 1:12–13

Lord Jesus Christ, I believe in You and I have received You as my Lord and Savior. Thank You that I have become a child of God because of the gift of salvation and faith. I praise You because I have been rescued and now belong to Your family. Please help me understand all that it means to be given this new identity and place in Your kingdom. Amen.

A prayer based on Galatians 2:20  

Lord Jesus Christ, I thank You for loving me. You lived a perfect life and died for my sins. Then You rose back to life in victory over sin and death. Please help me understand the revolutionary change that took place when I became Your disciple. The life people see me living is not “mine,” but lived by faith in You—You live in me! Please help me to put my ego to one side and trust in You. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice 

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here, there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work. 

Be Still, Pray Simply

Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing connection with Him. It doesn’t necessarily require a lot of talking!

One way to pray is to find a quiet, comfortable place. Be deliberately still, and focus attention on God and His love for us.

We are not trying to “empty our minds.” Instead, we are giving God our full attention and love.

Here are two helpful tips:

First, choose a helpful word, either from a Bible passage or a word such as Lord, God, Jesus, or Holy Spirit. Thinking about this can help us refocus whenever we find our attention wandering.

Second, remember that good communication involves active listening. Here, we are trusting the Holy Spirit to help us sense what God wants us to understand.

Remember, it’s normal to be distracted. However, we can never fail with this practice; we simply learn.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus.

Ask God

1. Galatians 5:22–23 explains that love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control result from the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives. Ask God which characteristic He wants you to work on with the Holy Spirit.
2. Of course, there are other characteristics. We can find them in the descriptions of Jesus, Who lived the perfect life. Read and pray through one of the gospels—Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John.
3. Is there a characteristic of yourself you particularly want to change? Who do you want to become? Ask God to help you cooperate with the Holy Spirit, one step at a time.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

What?

What changed when you became a disciple of Jesus?

Why?

Why is it important to understand we are children in God’s family and citizens of His kingdom?

How?

How would you describe your new identity to someone who isn’t a Christian?

Who?

Who is the Holy Spirit?

Where?

Where in your life do you sense that the Holy Spirit is beginning to change you—from the inside out?

Group guide

Inductive Bible study

Starting point 

What inspires a long-distance runner to keep going, mile after mile?

Perhaps it’s the satisfaction of doing something worthwhile. Maybe it’s the anticipation of completing the race. But for most of the time, no finish line will be in sight. And, at times, the challenging course and weather will test the runner’s endurance to their limits.

This illustrates what’s (probably) not changed for us.

Why? Because living our new story with old hurts, habits, and hang-ups can feel like running a race while carrying a backpack full of heavy weights. All our hurts, habits, and hang-ups probably did not change at the moment we were rescued by Jesus!

Perhaps this isn’t what we expected: The Holy Spirit’s restoration work is going to take a lifetime. So what can we expect as our new story unfolds?

Jesus invites us to move through life’s challenges with Him. First, we can fix our attention on the One who ran the perfect race of life. Second, Jesus invites us to learn that way of life from Him. Finally, He frees and empowers us to remove those weights, one by one.

How would you like to begin your own exploration of the question, “What’s (probably) not changed?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “What’s (probably) not changed?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “What’s (probably) not changed?”

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Matthew 11:28–30 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Matthew 11:28–30 (MSG)

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. 

Hebrews 12:1–2 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Do you see what this means—all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running—and never quit! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. 

Hebrews 12:1–2 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages

• What stood out to you most in the passages?
• How would you explain the journey you see ahead of you as you follow Jesus?
• What have you learned about the grace of Jesus—His offer to lead everyone into a new life that we cannot earn?
• What are you learning about the hurts, hang-ups, and habits that God will help you to work through?
• What surprises you most about Jesus’ expectations—His “yolk”?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “What’s (probably) not changed?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on Matthew 11:28–30

Lord Jesus Christ, thank You that I can journey through life with You. Peace and joy are now available to me every day—You give rest to my soul.  I praise You because I can come to You feeling tired, worn out, and burned out on religion. As my new life story continues to unfold, I bring all of my hurts, hang-ups, and habits to You. I want to walk with You, work with You, and learn the unforced rhythms of grace. Please help me to keep company with You and learn to live freely and lightly. Amen.

A prayer based on Hebrews 12:1–2  

Lord Jesus Christ, I praise You, the pioneer and perfecter of the life of faith I want to live. Thank You for the many inspiring Christians who can help me to learn and grow. Help me to remember that, despite my flaws and failings, I have a life of faith ahead of me—a new story to live. Please help me to live that life with commitment and energy. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here, there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work. 

Slow Down, Create Space

We know that our identity has completely changed; we’re members of God’s family and citizens of His kingdom. However, all our hurts, habits, and hang-ups probably did not change at the moment we were rescued by Jesus.

So, what can we do, knowing that the Holy Spirit’s restoration work is going to take a lifetime?

One thing we can do is develop the discipline of slowing down. That may seem impossible because of our busy lives. But it is worth working on. It’s hard to love God and one another when we are always in a hurry.

When we have stilled ourselves, there is a better chance of being aware of God and knowing Him better.

Developing this discipline is simple and valuable, but hard. Some ways to connect with God throughout our day include pausing to say “Good morning” to God when you wake up, seeing time spent waiting in traffic or in a line as an opportunity, taking time after a meal to chat, or scheduling short periods of time between meetings.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus. 

A New Person in Your Story

We are now living our new story with the Holy Spirit. Why? Because the Holy Spirit lives inside of us! Perhaps we feel surprised, shocked, confused, excited, or full of anticipation.

The good news is our mind, heart, and soul are all directly connected to God. While we may not hear a voice, we will learn to sense God communicating with us.

And there is more good news: God is at work within us, changing our character from the inside out.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Read Galatians 5:22–23 and Colossians 3:12–14 to identify some characteristics of Jesus.
2. Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit at work. For example, you may start to think or feel differently about ways you behave or the beliefs you hold.
3. Walk with the Holy Spirit. For example, ask the Holy Spirit for advice, guidance, or direction by praying throughout the day.
4. Work with the Holy Spirit in transforming your character. For example, ask the Holy Spirit for direction and energy.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

What?

What has changed since you became a Christian? What hasn’t changed?

Why?

Why do you think Jesus doesn’t resolve all of our hurts, hang-ups, and habits at the moment He saves us?

How?

How do you think Jesus is going to shape and transform your new story?

Who?

Who shows you the most unconditional love and forgiveness: you, other people, or Jesus?

Where?

Where in your life’s new story is Jesus inviting you to join in the work He’s already doing?

When?

When in each day can you create time and space to work with Jesus on a hurt, hang-up, or habit?

Group Guide

Starting point 

“How should we feel?” After all, Jesus has entered our lives. Surely we should feel different—more Christian!

But let’s be honest—this is not a helpful opening question. Why? First, there is no “official Christian” feeling. Second, very few of us feel happy and joyful every moment of the day. Third, God has wired us differently.

In reality, we feel what we feel; things happen around us, we assign meaning to them, and our feelings follow in response. At any one moment, we might feel like we’re on a rollercoaster ride, stuck in an endless rut, or just numb.

But there is more to life than the things happening around us. Things are happening inside us! Our heart, soul, mind, and strength are being transformed by the Spirit—regardless of our feelings.

As a result, living our new story can become more about God: giving Him the appreciation, praise, and glory He deserves, and learning to make ourselves at home with Him.

As we do so, we may discover that, as things happen, and as we assign meaning to them, we start to feel differently.

So, how would you like to begin your exploration of the question, “How should I feel?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “How should I feel?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “How should I feel?”

[Jesus says,] “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.”

Revelation 3:20 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

[Jesus says,] “Look at me. I stand at the door. I knock. If you hear me call and open the door, I’ll come right in and sit down to supper with you.”

Revelation 3:20 (MSG)

“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” 

Mark 12:29–31 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Jesus said, “The first in importance is, ‘Listen, Israel: The Lord your God is one; so love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy.’ And here is the second: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ There is no other commandment that ranks with these.”

Mark 12:29–31 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages

• What did you think and feel as you read the passages?
• How would you explain the new ways you think and feel about God, yourself, and the world around you?
• What is God helping you to understand about connecting with Him and worshipping Him?
• What has surprised you most about becoming a disciple of Jesus?
• We don’t all think and feel in the same ways. God has wired us differently. What do these passages suggest about the different ways of connecting with and worshipping God?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “How should I feel?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on Revelation 3:20

Lord Jesus Christ, I acknowledge that my thoughts and feelings change throughout the day. However, I believe in You, that You rescued me, and that I can now live a new life story. Thank You for standing at the door of my life and knocking. I celebrate that I heard Your call and opened the door. Thank You for coming right into my life, sitting down, and entering into an intimate relationship with me—this is true no matter how I feel. Amen.

A prayer based on Mark 12:29–31  

Lord Jesus Christ, You have rescued me from death for life. I praise you because You are restoring every part of my whole being. Please help me to love You with every part of my being: heart, soul, mind, and strength. And please help me to love my neighbor as myself. I thank You that love is so much more than a changeable emotion. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice 

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here, there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work. 

Worship

Everyone worships someone or something. People normally worship the person or thing they most value, admire, and respect.

We can worship God at church as we sing, pray, or serve as a volunteer. However, different people worship God in different ways. For example, we can also worship God as we walk in a forest, join a struggle for justice, or read a book.

So, what is the worship we want to practice? It’s putting God first—with our hearts, minds, and bodies. Each and every day, we can explore ways to worship God.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus. 

A Tough Word: Submit

Our new story is a part of God’s big, unfolding story; a story God knows from beginning to end. That is a beautiful thing. But why is it important?

It reminds us God created and sustains everything. God is in charge—no matter how chaotic the world may feel.

That means God has the authority and power to transform our characters. And He invites us to work alongside the Holy Spirit in the process.

God shapes our beliefs and behavior as we learn to submit to Him—transforming our character day by day. And so, will we cooperate, or will we resist? Our challenge is to submit to God.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Discover characteristics of Jesus in Galatians 5:22–23 and Colossians 3:12–14.
2. Ask God for help understanding how to submit to Him.
3. Ask a mature Christian for their experience of submitting to God.
4. Consider asking God to help you submit to Him each morning as you wake up.
5. Choose a particular characteristic of yourself about which you feel the most need to submit to God’s way. Ask for His help.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

Why?

Why do people not all experience the same feelings after becoming a Christian?

What?

What do you think Jesus meant when he commanded us to love God and to love one another?

How?

How can we love God with all of our heart, soul, mind, and strength?

Where?

Where do you see your new story going as the Holy Spirit transforms your life from the inside out?

Who?

Who can you talk to about the way you now feel and think?

When?

When have you noticed thinking and feeling differently about God, yourself, and the world around you?

Group guide

Starting point 

How do our old life and our new life connect?

We each have a moment when God rescued us. Now our sins are forgiven; we’re free to live for Him. With each new moment, we can move through life guided by the Spirit.

And so, our old story ends and our new story begins. But, it’s important to remember that both stories describe our journey—the journey of a disciple.

Of course, God hasn’t erased our old story. We remember the people, experiences, and circumstances that have shaped us. There is much to appreciate and to celebrate. There are also many hurts, hang-ups, and habits that remain part of who we are.

That might feel like a lot of baggage to carry into our new story.

But here’s the truth: It’s no surprise to God that, in our new story, we continue to think and act in sinful ways! We make life messy; other people make life messy too.

Now, here’s the beautiful thing: God is transforming our new story as it unfolds. God saved us in a moment and will transform us over a lifetime.

God is shaping our character. Slowly but surely, it will reflect our new identity. We won’t just be children of God; people will know it as they experience us in daily life.

How? God wants us to play our part in transforming our characters, and God wants us to relax in the knowledge that He is here and at work in our lives.

So, how would you like to begin your exploration of the question, “How do my old life and new life connect?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “How do my old life and new life connect?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “How do my old life and new life connect?” 

As Jesus went on from there, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the tax collector’s booth. “Follow me,” he told him, and Matthew got up and followed him.

While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”

On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”

Matthew 9:9–13 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Passing along, Jesus saw a man at his work collecting taxes. His name was Matthew. Jesus said, “Come along with me.” Matthew stood up and followed him.

Later when Jesus was eating supper at Matthew’s house with his close followers, a lot of disreputable characters came and joined them. When the Pharisees saw him keeping this kind of company, they had a fit, and lit into Jesus’ followers. “What kind of example is this from your Teacher, acting cozy with crooks and riffraff?”

Jesus, overhearing, shot back, “Who needs a doctor: the healthy or the sick? Go figure out what this Scripture means: ‘I’m after mercy, not religion.’ I’m here to invite outsiders, not coddle insiders.”

Matthew 9:9–13 (MSG)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 

2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Now we look inside, and what we see is that anyone united with the Messiah gets a fresh start, is created new. The old life is gone; a new life burgeons!

2 Corinthians 5:17 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages

• What grabbed your attention in the passages?
• How would you explain the connection between your story before and after becoming a disciple of Jesus?
• What is God helping you to understand about the fresh start He has given you?
• What has surprised you most about Jesus’ relationship with Matthew?
• Sometimes Jesus is described as the Great Physician. What have you learned about your relationship with Jesus?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “How do my old life and new life connect?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on Matthew 9:9–13

Lord Jesus Christ, thank You for the story of Matthew. I praise You for loving everyone and for inviting everyone to follow You. Thank You for not being influenced by society and culture. Please help me to understand that it is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I am a recovering sinner—I can now live a new story of keeping company with You, knowing that You can make me more like You. Amen.

A prayer based on 2 Corinthians 5:17  

Lord Jesus Christ, I praise You for the journey of transformation I have begun. The old life has gone! I have been rescued. The new life is here! I’m now united with You and can be shaped to be more like Jesus, day-by-day. I’m a new creation with a new story to live as I follow and love You. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice 

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here, there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work. 

Rhythms and Rules 

Some of us may have absolutely no desire to follow rhythms or rules. But please consider reading on. Why? Because we are living a new story. Working out rhythms or rules can provide helpful guidelines.

The aim of a rhythm or a rule is to create something personal—an approach to daily life that helps us to love God and love other people. Also, we can better cooperate with the Holy Spirit in transforming us to be more like Jesus.

Does it still sound complicated or overwhelming?

In the end, we are creating the rhythms or rules. We can do it slowly, making refinements as time passes, and knowing that God loves us no matter what.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Start the day by committing to focus on God as much as you can.
2. End the day by confessing sins to God.
3. Set a recurring timer as a reminder to pray for people.
4. Do one thing each day that helps you to praise and thank God.
5. Commit to behaving in one particular way that reflects the person you want to become.
6. Read through one of the Gospels—Matthew, Mark, Luke or John. What can you learn from the example of Jesus?

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus.

Be Kind to Yourself. Be Relaxed.

God has rescued us—our souls are safe and alive. We can become more like Jesus; day by day, our character like His.

Perhaps that sounds like a lot of hard work, with “failure” written all over it. After all, we know ourselves. We know that many of our hurts, hang-ups, and habits are still part of who we are.

So, how can it be possible for our character to change? The answer involves a tension: God wants us to play our part in transforming our character, and God wants us to relax in the knowledge that He is here and at work in our lives.

God is not asking us to create change; He is asking us to cooperate with Him in the work He is already doing. And we can be kind to ourselves whenever we miss the mark because God loves us, will forgive us, and continues His work in us.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Read Galatians 5:22–23 and Colossians 3:12–14 to identify some characteristics of Jesus.
2. Ask God to show you a belief or value He wants to transform, so that you become more like Jesus.
3. Ask God to show you a characteristic He wants to transform, so that you become more like Jesus.
4. Ask God to help you cooperate with Him as He transforms your character from the inside out.
5. Ask God to forgive and encourage you when you encounter your flaws and failings.
6. Remember, being loved by God makes it possible to be relaxed and kind to yourself.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

What?

What is God helping you to understand about the fresh start He has given to you?

When?

When you became a Christian, what happened at that moment, and what will Jesus always be doing?

How?

How would you describe the connection between your old and new stories—continuity and change, similarities and differences, or benefits and drawbacks?

Why?

Why do you think people were so surprised and shocked by the way Jesus treated the people He encountered?

Who?

Whom do you sense Jesus created you to become?

Where?

Where in your life do you most appreciate God’s forgiveness and a fresh start?

Group Guide

Starting point 

Who is our role model?

The four gospels—Matthew, Mark, Luke, John—help us understand the way God wants us to live. As we read, Jesus perfectly demonstrates the life that pleases His Father in heaven; that’s the reason Jesus is described as the author, pioneer, and perfector of our faith. After all, Jesus was completely God and completely human.

How does following Jesus help to shape our beliefs, values, behavior, and character?

It can be helpful to think of ourselves as Jesus’ apprentices; we learn from Him, following His example and His teachings.

What practical steps can we take in daily life?

First, as we read the Bible, God can communicate with us. The Holy Spirit brings the words to life and uses them in our lives. As a result, we can grow in understanding and learn to apply that in our daily lives.

Second, we can learn from other disciples of Jesus. That’s one of the benefits of getting to know other Christians: God can speak through them directly into our lives and our stories. Hopefully, we’re able to find some who are further into their story of faith than us. As we interact with them, we can be encouraged, equipped, and empowered.

So, how would you like to begin your own exploration of the question, “Who is my role model?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “Who is my role model?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “Who’s my role model?”

Then Jesus came from Galilee to the Jordan to be baptized by John. But John tried to deter him, saying, “I need to be baptized by you, and do you come to me?”

Jesus replied, “Let it be so now; it is proper for us to do this to fulfill all righteousness.”Then John consented.

As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him. And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

Matthew 3:13–17 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Jesus then appeared, arriving at the Jordan River from Galilee. He wanted John to baptize him. John objected, “I’m the one who needs to be baptized, not you!”

But Jesus insisted. “Do it. God’s work, putting things right all these centuries, is coming together right now in this baptism.” So John did it.

The moment Jesus came up out of the baptismal waters, the skies opened up and he saw God’s Spirit—it looked like a dove—descending and landing on him. And along with the Spirit, a voice: “This is my Son, chosen and marked by my love, delight of my life.”

Matthew 3:13–17 (MSG)

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith … 

Hebrews 12:1–2 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

Do you see what this means—all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running—and never quit! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it.

Hebrews 12:1–2 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages

• What did you think and feel as you read the passages?
• How would you explain the idea of living a life centered on Jesus?
• What has surprised you most about the importance of Jesus in your daily life?
• Why do you think Jesus insisted on being baptized?
• What are you learning about Jesus being fully God and fully human?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “Who’s my role model?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on Matthew 3:13–17

Lord Jesus Christ, You are the Son of God. Thank You for being the perfect role model. I praise You for living a perfect life that pleases God. Thank You that the relationship between God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit demonstrates true love. Amen.

A prayer based on Hebrews 12:1–2  

Lord Jesus Christ, I thank you for the example set by so many Christians, past and present. Please help me to fix my eyes on You, Who began and finished a life that was completely pleasing to God. I praise You because, by focusing on the way You lived, I can set the direction of my life. Please help me to work out what holds me back as I live this new story. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here, there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work.

Be Discipled

A disciple follows and learns from their teacher. As disciples of Jesus, we learn from Him. We follow His example and His teachings. We can think of ourselves as His apprentices.

What does that look like in daily life? First, as we read the Bible, God can communicate with us. The Holy Spirit brings the words to life and uses them in our lives.

Second, we can learn from other disciples of Jesus; this is one of the benefits of getting to know other Christians. God can speak through them directly into our lives and our stories. Hopefully, we are able to connect with some Christians who are further into their story of faith. As we interact with them, we can be encouraged, equipped, and empowered. That’s being discipled.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus.

Study Jesus

Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John are four books in the Bible. They each give a historical account of Jesus’ life—in particular, the final three years.

Why mention these four Gospels? One reason is they explain how God wants us to live.

As we read, Jesus perfectly demonstrates a life full of love for God and other people. So, how does having Jesus as a role model help to shape our character?

Here are some suggestions:

1. Read Galatians 5:22–23 and Colossians 3:12–14 to identify some of Jesus’ characteristics.
2. Think about which characteristic of Jesus encourages or inspires you most?
3. Think about which characteristic of Jesus challenges you most?
4. One step at a time, we want to develop the characteristics of Jesus. Ask God to bring to your mind and heart one small step you can take this week.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

Where?

Where do you tend to fix your attention during the day—the past, present, or future?

Who?

Who is the focus of your life?

Why?

Why is Jesus the ultimate role model?

When?

When do you feel it is most difficult to follow Jesus?

What?

What has surprised you most about being guided by Jesus as you live daily life?

How?

How can being an apprentice of Jesus help you live life to the fullest?

Group Guide

Starting point 

Do we ever consider whether God loved us before we became a Christian? Or if we began something that triggered God’s love for us? No, God has always loved us—and everyone else.

So what changed when we became a Christian?

Our response is what changed; we received God as our Lord and Savior. That’s when our new story began.

Here is an essential part of our new story: God, who loves us, has always been present with us everywhere, all the time. Furthermore, His Spirit is now present in us.

So, let’s pay attention to God. We can learn to look for Him working in our lives and the world around us, when we work, move, rest, play, celebrate, and struggle. Let’s learn to pause throughout the day to remind ourselves, “God is here, and I am here.”

We might also wonder why God has always loved us. It’s easy: God is love. And, as God in human form, Jesus lived a life of perfect love.

We’re left with a simple but challenging conclusion: the characteristics that make us more like Jesus are all expressions of love.

God’s love inspires, encourages, challenges, and requires us to love one another. Our contribution is to try to put love into action. And God’s love will sustain our efforts.

God has always loved us; we can’t earn it, but we can respond with trust and action.

So, how will you begin your exploration of the question, “Didn’t Jesus love me anyway?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “Didn’t Jesus love me anyway?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “Didn’t Jesus love me anyway?”

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” 

John 3:16–17 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again.”

John 3:16–17 (MSG)

This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

1 John 4:10 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

1 John 4:10 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages  

• What stood out to you most in the passages?
• How would you explain God’s love for humankind?
• What is God helping you to understand about His love?
• What has surprised you most about these two passages?
• What have you learned about your relationship with Jesus?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “Didn’t Jesus love me anyway?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on John 3:16–17

Lord Jesus Christ, I praise You. You created us. You have always loved us. You are always present with us. You have rescued me. You are pleased with me. I belong to You. God, You so loved the world that You gave Your one and only Son so that no one need be destroyed. Instead, by believing in Jesus, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. Amen.

A prayer based on 1 John 4:10 

Lord God, I praise You because You are love. Thank you for demonstrating love. It’s not that we loved You first, but that You loved us and sent Your Son as a sacrifice. That sacrifice clears away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with You. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice 

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work.

God Is Present. I Am Present.

God has always loved us. So, what changed when we became a Christian? Our response changed: we received God as our Lord and Savior. That’s when our new story began.

Here is an essential part of our new story: God, who loves us, has always been present everywhere, all of the time. And now He is present in us. How? Because the Holy Spirit lives in us.

Therefore, it is helpful for us to pay attention to God. We can learn to look for Him at work in our lives and in the world around us. We can learn to pause throughout the day to remind ourselves that God is here, and that you are here.

As we work, move, rest, play, celebrate, and struggle, let’s remember, “God is here, and I am here,” so that we can deepen our love for God and our appreciation of the current moment.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus.

Love, Not Will Power

We want to develop a character that is more like the character of Jesus. However, there is no seven-point program, and there are no eight secrets to success. Why? Because we are not God.

However, God has always loved us. In fact, God is love. As God in human form, Jesus, perfectly lived a life of love.

What are the implications of this?

In short, the characteristics that make us more like Jesus are all expressions of love. And our contribution to developing them is to try to put love into action.

God’s love inspires, encourages, challenges, and requires us to love one another (for example, by being patient). What’s more, God’s love sustains our efforts—pure will power is not enough.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Read Galatians 5:22–23 and Colossians 3:12–14 to identify some characteristics of Jesus.
2. In the past, have you ever tried to change or develop your character? What motivated you? Ask God to help you learn from that experience.
3. You are loved and empowered by God. How does that impact your thoughts and feelings about character transformation? Ask God for an opportunity to put your faith into loving action.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

Who?

Who gets credit for rescuing and restoring your life—you, someone else, or Jesus?

Why?

Why does God love everyone?

How?

How would you explain God’s love for humankind?

What?

What is God helping you to understand about His love?

Where?

In what area of your life is it most difficult to accept God’s love as a gift, rather than trying to earn His love?

When?

When in your daily schedule can you acknowledge your need for God and recognize His perfect love?

Group Guide

Starting point 

Let’s begin with an obvious point: Friendships are a very particular type of relationship. What’s different about them? Perhaps it’s that, in them, we choose to be real, open, honest, and kind—even when it comes at a cost to us.

You’ve probably noticed that Jesus invested a great deal in His friendships. As God in human form, He did not need them. However, he valued, enjoyed, and modeled how to build them.

In the same way, we can build friendships with other Christians that involve a spiritual dimension. Finding one or two close Christian friends, or a small community of Christians, can be a great help.

We can know, encourage, support, and speak truth to one another. It’s about helping each other to love God and to love other people. This way, we can find our people—one or more—and our place in God’s church.

Some of us already have trusted friends who can support us with encouragement and accountability. Others of us can connect with people in environments set up by the church—the Connect with People resource suggests how.

It’s good to grow together.

So, how would you like to begin your exploration of the question, “Who can help me after I accept Jesus?”

Browse, select, and use

Think of the I’m New library of resources as just that—a library.

You’ve selected the question, “Who can help me grow?” Now you can browse, select, and use the resources in a way that supports your growth—and, hopefully, the growth of others in your circle.

There’s also the option to explore on your own, with one or two others, or in a small group. We take this approach in other areas of our life: family, work, and leisure. It makes sense in our new story of faith too.

We hope to support you as you explore your questions, make discoveries, and work out how to integrate them into your unfolding story.

After all, our stories are interconnected with one another and with God’s grand story. So together, with the Holy Spirit, let’s grow to become the expression of Jesus we were each created to be.

Why read the Bible?

The Bible is amazing. Why? First, its different human authors were all inspired by our living God; the words we read have His complete and final authority. Second, today we can ask God to communicate with each of us as we read, listen, and think about each passage. God communicates with people in different ways—but we can be confident His words will impact us and shape the new story that is unfolding.

As we read the Bible, let’s ask God to help us explore the question, “Who can help me grow?”

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.

Acts 2:42–47 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

They committed themselves to the teaching of the apostles, the life together, the common meal, and the prayers.

Everyone around was in awe—all those wonders and signs done through the apostles! And all the believers lived in a wonderful harmony, holding everything in common. They sold whatever they owned and pooled their resources so that each person’s need was met.

They followed a daily discipline of worship in the Temple followed by meals at home, every meal a celebration, exuberant and joyful, as they praised God. People in general liked what they saw. Every day their number grew as God added those who were saved.

Acts 2:42–47 (MSG)

Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

Ephesians 4:14–16 (NIV)

And here is a version of the same passage written in contemporary language.

No prolonged infancies among us, please. We’ll not tolerate babes in the woods, small children who are an easy mark for impostors. God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love—like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do. He keeps us in step with each other. His very breath and blood flow through us, nourishing us so that we will grow up healthy in God, robust in love.

Ephesians 4:14–16 (MSG)

Choose any questions to help you learn from the Bible passages

• What stood out to you most in the passages?
• How would you explain the importance of the church community?
• What is God helping you to understand about finding support?
• What has surprised you most about the way God designed the church community to work?
• What have you learned about your relationship with Jesus and with His followers?
• At this point in time, how would you answer the question, “Who can help me grow?”
• What is the relevance to your daily life of anything you have learned?
• What practical response is God leading you to make as your new story unfolds?

Why do we pray?

How do we give our full attention to the most important person in our life? How would we develop a new connection with someone we don’t yet know? Perhaps we would listen more than speak. Maybe our praise, thanks, and apologies would come before our requests. Prayer is about attention and connection: paying attention to God and choosing to connect with Him. And so, God invites us to talk with Him throughout the day—any time, any place. After all, healthy communication is at the heart of healthy relationships.

A prayer based on Acts 2:42–47

Lord Jesus Christ, I thank You that I need not be alone. My new story can be lived alongside other people who love You. I praise You because, through the work of the Holy Spirit, the diverse range of Your disciples can live together in a church community. Please help me to learn from the example of the church that developed soon after You returned to heaven. Amen.

A prayer based on Ephesians 4:14–16  

Lord Jesus Christ, thank You for giving an illustration of a healthy church community. The church is a body and You are its head. Thank You that I am now a part of that body. Please help me to live my new story with love, truth, and kindness. I sense the challenge of being connected to other people. I want to help other people to grow and mature. Please give me the wisdom to seek out people who can do the same for me. Amen.

How can I connect with God?

Our new story began when God rescued us. Jesus has saved us from sin’s power for a life with Him—which is so much better!

We now belong to God’s family and His kingdom. That is good news—but is there more? Yes. First, God is present all the time and everywhere. He wants us to learn to recognize Him and respond to him in the here and now. Second, God wants to transform us from the inside out so that each day, as we spend time with Jesus, He can shape us to become more like Him. That involves our partnership.

Try a spiritual practice 

Don’t be put off by the title. Why? Because God is present all around us, and these practices can connect us with Him. Not only that: We’re inviting God to make us more like Jesus, trusting the Holy Spirit to do the work of growth. Here there are no goals, no striving, no pressure—just God at work. 

Spiritual Friendships

Friendships are a very particular type of relationship. What’s different about them? Perhaps that, in them, we choose to be real, open, honest, and kind—even when it comes at a cost to us.

You’ve probably noticed that Jesus invested a great deal in His friendships. As God in human form, He did not need them. However, he valued, enjoyed, and modeled how to build them.

As followers of Jesus, we have the opportunity to build some friendships with other Christians that involve a spiritual dimension—spiritual friendships.

What makes this kind of friendship different? And what helps it to develop? At the heart of these friendships is a commitment to help each other to love God and to love other people. It involves knowing, encouraging, supporting, and speaking truth to one another. For example, a simple first step is praying with and for one another.

Ultimately, our spiritual friendships can help us to connect more deeply with God.

Make character a priority 

What is character? Over time, our words and actions demonstrate to other people what we genuinely believe and value. We might think we’re patient, but do people consistently experience our patience? Clearly, we need the help of the Holy Spirit to develop a character that’s more like Jesus.  

Grow Together

One big part of our new story is working out what we believe and value. Another big part of our new story is expressing our faith in loving action. Then, as we learn to connect our beliefs with our actions, our character takes shape. That is a big challenge!

Thankfully, God is in control. First, we can make ourselves at home with God. Second, we can follow the perfect example of Jesus. Third, the Holy Spirit is living and working inside of us.

So, character transformation—being made more like Jesus—does not depend on our ability or understanding. Can we sit back and relax? No, we need to be present and to participate.

Finding one or two close Christian friends, or a small community of Christians, can be a great help. They can provide encouragement and accountability.

Where do we find people who will help shape our character to be more like Jesus?

Some of us already have trusted friends who can support us with encouragement and accountability. Others of us can connect with people in environments set up by the church—the Connect with People resource suggests how.

It’s good to grow together.

Sources

Calhoun, A. A. (2015). Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press.

Whitney, D. (2014). Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Thomas, G. (1996). Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God. Grand Rapids: Zondervan

Is it helpful to ask questions?

Curiosity is very important as we explore our new faith and our new story.

Often, one question leads to another, and another—that is good. Questions help us to work out why we have faith in God, how we get to know Him better, and what it looks like to become more like Jesus each day.

Moreover, when our questions feel full of doubt, anger, fear, or guilt, we are not alone or wrong! Let’s speak with God and our people—trusting it will help us to grow and mature.

Questions to get started

These questions may help you explore your new faith. They may also help clarify something or create a new question. Be curious; keep asking.

When?

When do you feel most connected to people (for example, when socializing, working, or studying)?

How?

How can you use the GroupFinder tool (found here) or the ServeFinder tool (found here) to explore ways into a community?

Why?

Why is it essential to have some Christian friends and belong to a Christian community?

What?

What has surprised you most about the way God designed the church community to connect and work together?

Who?

Who were Jesus’ closest friends?

Where?

Where in the church community do you feel most connected?

Group Guide