I grew up hearing some words—again and again.
About my alcoholic uncle: “That’s just how he is.”
About my grudge-holding grandma: “That’s just how she is.”
About the bully in my class: “That’s just how he is.”
About the harsh, harassing neighbor: “That’s just how she is.”
Mean? Arrogant? Rude? Manipulative? “That’s just how we are.”
I’ve heard those words a lot. I’ve said those words. Maybe you have, too.
As a kid, I believed those words. After all, adults said them. And Popeye said them, too: “I yam what I yam.” Perhaps life really was like a Tom & Jerry cartoon. Perhaps every storyline was destined to repeat itself—again and again and again.
“That’s just how I am.” As a kid, I didn’t know better. I didn’t know that people could change. Today, I know that to say those words is to deny the power of Jesus to transform a life. Today, I know that to say those words is to deny Jesus as Redeemer, Restorer, and Healer.
And today, I’ve seen what Jesus has done—again and again and again.
Those beautiful words of life change from “Amazing Grace”? “I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but now I see.” I’ve seen that happen. I’ve seen sobriety, forgiveness, and compassion come. I’ve seen the lost get found, the stubborn surrender, and the dead come to life. I’ve seen every one of the fruit of the Spirit take root and grow; I’ve seen people grow in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
I bet you’ve seen changes, too. Maybe even in you.
And this is why, or at least one of the bajillion reasons why, I loved Scott Vaudrey’s message. I love that Scott and September stood on our stage, shared their stories, and thus revealed the transformational power of Jesus. Scott once was ______ and now is ______. September once was _____ and now is _____. Their marriage once was _____ but now is _______.
The changes weren’t easy or quick. They didn’t come without pain, work, or struggle. But change was possible. Change is possible. For them. For me. For you.
If you missed their talk, you can read it HERE.
If you are ready to do some work, you can find the handout HERE.
If you are ready for more, consider RECOVER or THE MARRIAGE COURSE. If you don’t know where to start or where to turn, contact ME.
Change is possible, always. There is hope, always. In this season, what does God want to cultivate in you? What is God calling you to SAY YES to?